I’m 43 yrs . old. My spouse and I have now been together for seventeen years. I just noticed that we identify as male. I have very very very long presented actually as a genderqueer female. Once I explained my emotions to my cis male partner he revealed that he’s maybe not interested in males. He will not mind or even prefers a genderqueer-presenting feminine, but he informs me the ”physique” has to be feminine. There were exchanges that are emotional us concerning this. You want to remain together but my physical presentation is becoming a concern. The important thing being that i wish to be actually male. He’s warned me personally which he will not feel attracted to me personally intimately if we become actually male. We would be just loving coparents and friends in place of loving coparents and partners that are sexual. I’ve difficulty thinking that anybody truthfully could possibly be entirely drawn to just one single physical presentation kind absent societal force.
He’s less adventurous regarding intercourse than me personally and seemingly have less of a sexual interest than me personally additionally. But as a result of my increased feelings of confidence and well-being, our company is having more intercourse now than previously. He generally seems to love this particular. But If only he would start as much as more options than ”cis vanilla that is hetero sex. We have currently turn out to him as being a trans homosexual man remarked that the two—the number of intercourse we are having while the reality that I now understand myself to become a gay man—are interlinked. (mer…)